Attachment is a lie

At its root, attachment is a lie. That sounds so abstract. At the emotional level it’s experienced as dissatisfaction, emotional hunger, neediness, expectations, controlling to get what it wants, manipulating, grasping; all of those are attachment. This is the daily...

What is anger and what is it not?

A perfect question. And the perfect answer, “Anger is the response when attachment doesn’t get what it wants.” Attachment just can’t stand problems. It only wants what I want, it only wants everything to be lovely. So anger’s like a panic attack. We just can’t cope....

Pride and low self-esteem are flip sides of the same coin

I think we all experience low self-esteem, but if someone accuses us of being proud or arrogant, we’d find it hard to acknowledge. Actually, they’re intimately connected. With both low self-esteem and pride we hunger for praise, for affirmation from others, and suffer...

What is love?

The English word “love” is used to convey so many different emotions that it’s amazing that we can communicate with each other! We can love chocolate cake, our dog, our mother, our new shoes, God, or our boyfriend. So, what’s the difference? According to the Buddhist...

Postcard 4 from Robina: Bendigo, Tuesday April 26, 2011

I’ve been back in Australia for ten days now. I arrived in Melbourne and picked up a car and drove the two hours north to Atisha Centre, near Bendigo. Lama Zopa Rinpoche has been teaching here since April 1; the last two weeks were for various initiations and...