We need to learn to greet problems

  I think we all have a misunderstanding of patience. We actually think it means passive aggression, kind of gritting your teeth and waiting for that horrible thing to go away. That is not patience; that literally is aversion or anger, but suppressed. “Passive...

Understand conventional things first, then emptiness

  As far as Buddha is concerned we’re living in la-la land in relation to how things exist. And this, very simply, is why we suffer. Therefore his method for stopping suffering, achieving liberation from suffering, is to get in touch with reality.   The...

Being angry is not the same as finding fault

  There’s nothing wrong with finding fault. There is a war in Ukraine, the car did crash, your sister was mean to you, the light was red. They’re facts. But then we get angry. Finding fault and getting angry are completely...

Good behaviour

When we think about spiritual practice we usually imagine meditation, or prayer, or something mystical and out of the ordinary. When our mother exhorted us to “behave nicely” I’m quite sure we didn’t think she was giving us spiritual advice! But she was. A genuinely...