The benefit of vows

  We don’t like the sound of vows: we feel as if someone is forcing us into a corner, or that vows squash us down, or that we’ll get punished when we’re naughty and break them.   But if we think about it, when we learn to do anything,...

We need to learn to greet problems

  I think we all have a misunderstanding of patience. We actually think it means passive aggression, kind of gritting your teeth and waiting for that horrible thing to go away. That is not patience; that literally is aversion or anger, but suppressed. “Passive...

Understand conventional things first, then emptiness

  As far as Buddha is concerned we’re living in la-la land in relation to how things exist. And this, very simply, is why we suffer. Therefore his method for stopping suffering, achieving liberation from suffering, is to get in touch with reality.   The...

Being angry is not the same as finding fault

  There’s nothing wrong with finding fault. There is a war in Ukraine, the car did crash, your sister was mean to you, the light was red. They’re facts. But then we get angry. Finding fault and getting angry are completely...

Patience is not passive aggression!

  I don’t think we like the idea of patience. We think it’s like gritting our teeth and waiting for the awful thing to go away. For us it’s more like passive aggression!    So, what is it actually? T0 begin to understand it we need to be familiar with...