Purification is a psychological process

  There’s no karma we can’t change. Our mind is not set in stone. As Lama Yeshe says, we create negativity with our mind so we purify it by creating positivity with our mind.  If you’ve eaten poison, because you know the meaning of poison and its...

Regret is not guilt

There are four steps in the psychological process of purifying negative karma. As Lama Yeshe says, “What purification is is the power of your regret, the power of reliance, the power of the remedy, the power of the resolve.” It’s the intensity of your own mind...

Guilt or accountability?

We all deeply crave to be seen as a good person and cannot stand it when we’re not. So when we do something like have a fight with a friend or take something that doesn’t belong to us, we immediately feel bad – we feel guilty. It’s necessary, of course, to acknowledge...

Regret or guilt?

There’s a practice we Tibetan Buddhists do that I like to call “the four Rs”: regret, reliance, the remedy and resolve. It’s a really practical, optimistic meditation to finish the day with. Regret. Throughout the day it’s inevitable that we’ve thought and said and...

Giving and receiving forgiveness

To forgive others when they have harmed us is a brave thing to do. It releases anger and resentment, opens our hearts, and heals relationships. But what about asking for forgiveness when we have hurt others? What’s involved? Asking for forgiveness implies...