Is it possible to love without attachment?

  According to the Buddhist model of the mind, we divide its contents into three categories; there’s no fourth. There are the so-called positive states, such as love, compassion, forgiveness; the negative ones, such as attachment, anger, depression; and the...

What’s the job of being a Buddhist?

  Well, the word “buddha” tells us everything. The etymology of the word is really tasty and it tells us exactly the job to be done. It’s the end result. The end result of being a Buddhist is to be a buddha – if you are a Mahayana Buddhist.   And...

Attachment to being liked or genuine kindness?

Many people have a natural tendency to be kind and to want to help others. So special! However, these same people also often feel that they are people-pleasers: forever trying to keep the peace, make everything nice, make people happy. And they also often feel that...

Become our own therapist

The Buddhist model of the mind is deceptively simple, yet it’s a profound method for helping us delve deep into our thoughts and feelings in order to understand and, crucially, change them. “We can mould our mind into any shape we like,” as one contemporary Tibetan...