Being angry is not the same as finding fault

  There’s nothing wrong with finding fault. There is a war in Ukraine, the car did crash, your sister was mean to you, the light was red. They’re facts. But then we get angry. Finding fault and getting angry are completely...

What is anger and what is it not?

A perfect question. And the perfect answer, “Anger is the response when attachment doesn’t get what it wants.” Attachment just can’t stand problems. It only wants what I want, it only wants everything to be lovely. So anger’s like a panic attack. We just can’t cope....

Patience is not passive aggression!

  I don’t think we like the idea of patience. We think it’s like gritting our teeth and waiting for the awful thing to go away. For us it’s more like passive aggression!    So, what is it actually? T0 begin to understand it we need to be familiar with...

Is it possible to love without attachment?

  According to the Buddhist model of the mind, we divide its contents into three categories; there’s no fourth. There are the so-called positive states, such as love, compassion, forgiveness; the negative ones, such as attachment, anger, depression; and the...

All beings are kind to me!

  On the face of it, “All beings are kind to me” seems to have no basis in reality.    So what’s it mean? It’s one of the contemplations in a series of techniques for accomplishing bodhichitta, the paradigm shift in the mind that is the aspiration to...