Attachment is a lie

At its root, attachment is a lie. That sounds so abstract. At the emotional level it’s experienced as dissatisfaction, emotional hunger, neediness, expectations, controlling to get what it wants, manipulating, grasping; all of those are attachment. This is the daily...

What is anger and what is it not?

A perfect question. And the perfect answer, “Anger is the response when attachment doesn’t get what it wants.” Attachment just can’t stand problems. It only wants what I want, it only wants everything to be lovely. So anger’s like a panic attack. We just can’t cope....

Good behaviour

When we think about spiritual practice we usually imagine meditation, or prayer, or something mystical and out of the ordinary. When our mother exhorted us to “behave nicely” I’m quite sure we didn’t think she was giving us spiritual advice! But she was. A genuinely...