The kindness of the mother

  One of the meditations in the process of achieving bodhichitta, the radical approach of caring more for others than oneself, is to contemplate the kindness of our mother. Then thinking that because we’ve had countless lives we’ve had countless mothers, so...

All beings are kind to me!

  On the face of it, “All beings are kind to me” seems to have no basis in reality.    So what’s it mean? It’s one of the contemplations in a series of techniques for accomplishing bodhichitta, the paradigm shift in the mind that is the aspiration to...

Attachment to being liked or genuine kindness?

Many people have a natural tendency to be kind and to want to help others. So special! However, these same people also often feel that they are people-pleasers: forever trying to keep the peace, make everything nice, make people happy. And they also often feel that...

Become our own therapist

The Buddhist model of the mind is deceptively simple, yet it’s a profound method for helping us delve deep into our thoughts and feelings in order to understand and, crucially, change them. “We can mould our mind into any shape we like,” as one contemporary Tibetan...

Be grateful to myself

Our usual way of understanding “gratitude” is to be grateful to someone outside ourselves for something that we have. And that’s marvellous: we need to develop that. But there’s another way we can look at it, which is a great method to counteract our low self-esteem...