A new year and a fresh start

Many cultures celebrate the coming of a new year. And for all of them it brings the promise, the optimism, of a new start. Tibetans, for example, love their New Year celebrations. They start the night before the first day of the First Month, and go on for fifteen...

Pride and low self-esteem are flip sides of the same coin

I think we all experience low self-esteem, but if someone accuses us of being proud or arrogant, we’d find it hard to acknowledge. Actually, they’re intimately connected. With both low self-esteem and pride we hunger for praise, for affirmation from others, and suffer...

Why is happiness hard to find?

It seems pretty easy to deduce that what drives all of us, including animals and creatures, is the instinctive wish to be happy and to not suffer. It underlies every action we do, every choice we make. Nothing wrong with that! But we ought to ask ourselves why, no...

Be grateful to myself

Our usual way of understanding “gratitude” is to be grateful to someone outside ourselves for something that we have. And that’s marvellous: we need to develop that. But there’s another way we can look at it, which is a great method to counteract our low self-esteem...

Repaying the kindness of the mother

As in most Asian cultures, for the Tibetan people the idea of the mother as kind plays a central role in their way of life. As Buddhists, they have meditations for developing love and compassion for all “mother sentient beings”: given Buddha’s view that the essence of...