Best to think I’ll die today

  We know we’ll die one day, but we can’t stand the thought of it so we live in the fantasy that somehow we’re permanent. But best, as Lama Zopa Rinpoche says, to think that we’ll die today.   It’s too shocking! We think that if that happens, then why bother...

Attachment is a lie

At its root, attachment is a lie. That sounds so abstract. At the emotional level it’s experienced as dissatisfaction, emotional hunger, neediness, expectations, controlling to get what it wants, manipulating, grasping; all of those are attachment. This is the daily...

What is self-care?

  We talk a lot about self-care, especially if we’re in the helping industries. Someone told me that they recently got an email from Alexandria Ocasio-Cortez’s office focused on self-care, addressed obviously to people who are political activists –they’re people...

Coronavirus is bad enough – why have fear as well?

It seems as if there’s nowhere on the planet right now that isn’t suffering from the presence of the coronavirus and its consequences. And it’s bringing so much fear and anxiety. This is natural, of course – but that doesn’t mean we should take fear for granted. We...

How do we know whom to trust?

One of the most painful experiences is betrayal of trust. But how to ensure that someone – our colleague, our close friend, our beloved, or simply our next-door neighbour – is worthy of our trust? Or, putting it another way, how can we learn to develop the wisdom to...