We can learn to be content

The neurotic attitude that drives us, according to Buddha, is this primordial feeling that I don’t have enough, I haven’t achieved enough, he doesn’t love me enough, I am not good enough. It’s a bottomless pit of dissatisfaction. Why are we...

We can become our own person

  Loneliness is this feeling that we don’t have anyone to talk to, no one to share our experiences with. Even more fundamentally it’s not having anyone to validate us, support our thoughts and our feelings, love us, approve of us, to tell us we’re okay....

Attachment is a lie

At its root, attachment is a lie. That sounds so abstract. At the emotional level it’s experienced as dissatisfaction, emotional hunger, neediness, expectations, controlling to get what it wants, manipulating, grasping; all of those are attachment. This is the daily...

When there’s no attachment, there’s joy

  It’s impossible to be content when there is attachment. It’s just how it is. So, clearly, if that’s so, we need to understand attachment.   By definition, the Buddha’s view of attachment is discontent, dissatisfaction in its nature. Attachment is a cute...

Attachment to being liked or genuine kindness?

Many people have a natural tendency to be kind and to want to help others. So special! However, these same people also often feel that they are people-pleasers: forever trying to keep the peace, make everything nice, make people happy. And they also often feel that...