Controlling our speech is a stupendous practice

    Buddha exhorts us to refrain from four kinds of harmful speech: saying untrue words, speaking harshly, rabbiting on about nothing, badmouthing behind backs. He also recommends that we don’t kill, steal, etc.   It’s safe to say that most of us don’t...

The very first level of practice: control our body and speech

Tibetans have a saying: “When you’re with others, watch your behavior. And when you’re on your own, watch your mind.” And what’s “behavior”? What we do with our body and speech.  For sure, the mind is the source, but we can see that the parts of us that...

Living in harmony with those around us

I come from a family of seven siblings, all born within nine years. Like with most kids, with virtually no control over our feelings, we fought for space and attention, there was plenty of sibling rivalry, and there was lots of shouting and yelling. But there was a...