Pain is one thing, our attitude towards it is another

We know that the Buddhist approach is that we can change our attitude towards something in the outside world, but we often don’t think that when it comes to experiences of pain, let’s say. We just assume if we’ve got a headache, “Of course I’m angry, of course I’m...

Various methods for dealing with our crazy roommates

  The essential job of being a Buddhist is to distinguish between the deluded, neurotic, unhappy thoughts in our head and the positive, virtuous, appropriate ones. That’s it! Buddha’s unique approach to the mind is that we can rid our mind utterly of the voices...

The kindness of the mother

  One of the meditations in the process of achieving bodhichitta, the radical approach of caring more for others than oneself, is to contemplate the kindness of our mother. Then thinking that because we’ve had countless lives we’ve had countless mothers, so...

A new year and a fresh start

Many cultures celebrate the coming of a new year. And for all of them it brings the promise, the optimism, of a new start. Tibetans, for example, love their New Year celebrations. They start the night before the first day of the First Month, and go on for fifteen...

Guilt or accountability?

We all deeply crave to be seen as a good person and cannot stand it when we’re not. So when we do something like have a fight with a friend or take something that doesn’t belong to us, we immediately feel bad – we feel guilty. It’s necessary, of course, to acknowledge...