We need to learn to greet problems

  I think we all have a misunderstanding of patience. We actually think it means passive aggression, kind of gritting your teeth and waiting for that horrible thing to go away. That is not patience; that literally is aversion or anger, but suppressed. “Passive...

Equanimity is the basis of love and compassion

  In the series of techniques for developing love and compassion and, finally, bodhichitta, the basis, the foundation is the development of equanimity.    One type of equanimity is referring to your own steadiness as a result of working on your mind:...

What is anger and what is it not?

A perfect question. And the perfect answer, “Anger is the response when attachment doesn’t get what it wants.” Attachment just can’t stand problems. It only wants what I want, it only wants everything to be lovely. So anger’s like a panic attack. We just can’t cope....

Patience is not passive aggression!

  I don’t think we like the idea of patience. We think it’s like gritting our teeth and waiting for the awful thing to go away. For us it’s more like passive aggression!    So, what is it actually? T0 begin to understand it we need to be familiar with...