We need to learn to greet problems

  I think we all have a misunderstanding of patience. We actually think it means passive aggression, kind of gritting your teeth and waiting for that horrible thing to go away. That is not patience; that literally is aversion or anger, but suppressed. “Passive...

Pain is one thing, our attitude towards it is another

We know that the Buddhist approach is that we can change our attitude towards something in the outside world, but we often don’t think that when it comes to experiences of pain, let’s say. We just assume if we’ve got a headache, “Of course I’m angry, of course I’m...

Patience is not passive aggression!

  I don’t think we like the idea of patience. We think it’s like gritting our teeth and waiting for the awful thing to go away. For us it’s more like passive aggression!    So, what is it actually? T0 begin to understand it we need to be familiar with...

Regret is not guilt

There are four steps in the psychological process of purifying negative karma. As Lama Yeshe says, “What purification is is the power of your regret, the power of reliance, the power of the remedy, the power of the resolve.” It’s the intensity of your own mind...

Guilt or accountability?

We all deeply crave to be seen as a good person and cannot stand it when we’re not. So when we do something like have a fight with a friend or take something that doesn’t belong to us, we immediately feel bad – we feel guilty. It’s necessary, of course, to acknowledge...