Success on our own terms

Success. It’s a sweet-sounding word. Optimistic, buoyant, confident. Our lives are full of occasions of success, big and small. A day is successful when everything goes smoothly. We had a successful meeting. The bid at the auction was successful. The party was a great...

We need our own approval, not others’

One of our deepest needs is the approval of others. The very idea of “success”, whether big or small, is defined in terms of what others think of us. Managed well, seeking and receiving feedback is fundamental to our healthy growth as human beings, but the more power...