QUESTION
Dearest Robina
I hope you are well.
Your last bit of advice in relation to dealing with all the negative things about myself – thinking that there are some crazy guys outside my front door saying all these bad things about me and not buying into it all – helped enormously with my anxiety in general.
But a new depth or should I say crowd of loud monsters have appeared at the front door. . .
I can really see now the constant need to control things is attachment to getting what I want, and then the aversion and panic when it doesn’t happen.
But this is so intense. I mentioned the fear of anything happening to my children and the ultimate test of surrendering has emerged. My little boy has to go under general anesthetic and I am completely terrified. The fear is so consuming I truly do not know how to manage it.
Thank you for your extraordinary wisdom and guidance as always.
I love you,
T xxx
ANSWER
Most dear T:
I hear you loud and clear! But tell me when it’ll be? And what’s it for?
When it comes to things like this, things to do with our beloveds, the best approach sometimes can be to determine to hold it together for their sake. Your son maybe doesn’t know what’s going on, but for his sake think that you have no choice but to stay steady.
He and everyone else certainly needs to have you as the anchor, the rock.
Apart from anyone else, you yourself will be the beneficiary of this approach. It’ll make you feel strong and clear.
Another approach – very blunt and direct – is to accept the fact that bad things do happen: look it in the eye. We know this is true. We must do everything we can, but we know finally we can’t control the outcome. Attachment can’t bear to hear this! But we know it’s true.
The fear you’re experiencing is exactly of that: a bad outcome.
Accepting that — not believing it’ll happen, not anticipating it, just merely accepting that bad things do happen — then, no matter what, you will stay strong.
I don’t know. . . What do you think, T?
Much love, much courage!
Robina
QUESTION
Exactly. Thank you so much.
My son had life-saving surgery as a baby; now it’s not so intense. He has no idea of what’s ahead and is also the bravest person I know. So strong, so resilient, a lesson and inspiration to me every day.
Recently also a dear friend died, so I’m feeling very fragile.
I really do agree it’s how to stay steady in the knowledge that anything can and does happen. It’s not personal and I just have to be the rock of Gibraltar for my son when I feel like crumbling.
The surgery is on the 25th. I have to find a way to trust he will be okay.
I love you. Thank you so much for acknowledging me. I’m so so very grateful to you and all of your tireless energy and work to make us and the world better.
T xxxx
ANSWER
T: I will do special prayers done on the 25th, so let me know the time.
On the day, at the time, you can imagine your precious boy is surrounded by healing light, blessing and protecting him.
Meanwhile, do your best! And make the most of every minute.
Much love,
Robina
QUESTION
He is at the hospital from 7 in the morning.
Thank you, darling Venerable. I cannot thank you enough for your kindness and guidance.
I love you xxxx
ANSWER
I’ll be saying prayers right then, T!