QUESTION
Dear Robina
I visited my sons recently and they keep telling me how important it is for me to live in this seniors place, so I am safe and have help in case I fall.
I told them what my intentions were about moving from this place and being on my own again. They really spent a lot of time trying to talk me out of most of my plans and wishes. They said they would support me financially in any way I needed so I could travel and move about freely by renting drivers, etc.
But it still leaves me in a place that is eating away my heart and soul.
I just don’t know how to get away from these depressing feelings right now and feel such a lack of hope.
Love,
K
ANSWER
Dearest K,
I understand.
The key point is that you are in charge of your life. For sure, how your kids think is typical.
When I asked you earlier whether you have the power to make your own decisions — that they don’t have authority over you legally — you said yes, you can make your own decisions.
So keep that in mind.
But a big point is that you have to ask yourself why their opinions — just opinions! — are making you depressed.
So please keep your wishes in your heart and make your plans!
Do you understand?
And you have your practice: use that to keep you optimistic.
Love,
Robina
QUESTION
Hello Robina,
Thanks for your support. I understand. You’re right: I easily lose hope, and I realize there is no reason to do so.
I will keep my plans in my heart and not give up.
I will do my best, as you advise.
Love,
K
ANSWER
Yes, dear K. Keep moving! And stay optimistic.