Teaching schedule
United States
MAY 17, 2024
Morning Express Meditation
7:30-8am Santa Fe time (MDT)
MAY 17, 2024
Public Talk: How to Face Death Without Fear
7-8:30pm Santa Fe time (MDT)
MAY 18, 2024
Chanting the Names of Manjushri Continuously for Rinpoche's Swift Return
Ven. Robina will lead the 9-9:30am New York time session
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MAY 18, 2024
How to Face Death Without Fear
10am-3:30pm Santa Fe time (MDT)
MAY 19, 2024
How to Face Death Without Fear
10am-3:30pm Santa Fe time (MDT)
MAY 21, 2024
Morning Express Meditation
7:30-8am Santa Fe time (MDT)
MAY 23, 2024
Saka Dawa practices
1:30-3pm New York time
MAY 23, 2024
Monthly Buddhist Teachings
Co-Sponsored with Shantideva Center
6:30-8pm New York time
MAY 25, 2024
Chanting the Names of Manjushri Continuously for Rinpoche's Swift Return
Ven. Robina will lead the 9-9:30am New York time session
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Australia
MAY 26, 2024
Love vs attachment
Sat May 25, 8-9:30pm New York time /
Sun May 26, 10-11:30am Sydney time
United States
JUNE 2, 2024
Be Your Own Therapist
5-6pm Santa Fe time (MDT)
JUNE 3, 2024
Refuge and Five Lay Vows
5-6pm New York time
JUNE 3, 2024
The Workshop Is in the Mind
7:30-9pm New York time
JUNE 13, 2024
Transforming Problems into Happiness
Co-Sponsored with Shantideva Center
6:30-8pm New York time
Australia
JUNE 16, 2024
Moulding our mind
Sat Jun 15, 8-9:30pm New York time /
Sun Jun 16, 10-11:30am Sydney time
United States
JUNE 16, 2024
Be Your Own Therapist
5-6pm Santa Fe time (MDT)
JUNE 19, 2024
The Workshop Is in the Mind
1:30-3pm New York time
JUNE 22, 2024
How to Face Death without Fear
10am-12 noon Oregon time (PDT)
JUNE 26 & JULY 3 & 10, 2024
How to Face Death Without Fear
6-7:30pm Reno time (PDT)
JULY 1, 2024
The Workshop Is in the Mind
7:30-9pm New York time
JULY 3 & 10, 2024
How to Face Death Without Fear
6-7:30pm Reno time (PDT)
JULY 6, 2024
His Holiness the Dalai Lama birthday celebration
4:30pm New York time
JULY 10, 2024
Chokhor Duchen
1:30pm New York time
JULY 10, 2024
How to Face Death Without Fear
6-7:30pm Reno time (PDT)
JULY 11, 2024
Co-Sponsored with Shantideva Center
6:30-8pm New York time
Details to follow
JULY 17, 2024
The Workshop Is in the Mind
1:30-3pm New York time
Australia
JULY 21, 2024
Counteracting laziness
Sat Jul 20, 8-9:30pm New York time /
Sun Jul 21, 10-11:30am Sydney time
United States
JULY 29, 2024
The Workshop Is in the Mind
7:30-9pm New York time
Sweden
United Kingdom
AUGUST 8-10, 2024
Cultivating a Healthy State of Mind
6-7:30pm UK time
AUGUST 9-10, 2024
Cultivating a Healthy State of Mind
10am-4pm UK time
AUGUST 10, 2024
Cultivating a Healthy State of Mind
10am-4pm UK time
Australia
AUGUST 18, 2024
Transforming knowledge into action
Sat Aug 17, 8-9:30pm New York time /
Sun Aug 18, 10-11:30am Sydney time
SEPTEMBER 15, 2024
Developing equanimity
Sat Sep 14, 8-9:30pm New York time /
Sun Sep 15, 10-11:30am Sydney time
OCTOBER 20, 2024
Get ready for death
Sat Oct 19, 7-8:30pm New York time /
Sun Oct 20, 10-11:30am Sydney time
United States
OCTOBER 22, 2024
The Three Marks of Existence
7pm New York time
France
OCTOBER 28-NOVEMBER 3, 2024
Retreat
Details to follow
OCTOBER 29-NOVEMBER 3, 2024
Retreat
Details to follow
OCTOBER 30-NOVEMBER 3, 2024
Retreat
Details to follow
OCTOBER 31-NOVEMBER 3, 2024
Retreat
Details to follow
Australia
NOVEMBER 24, 2024
What is happiness
Sat Nov 23, 6-7:30pm New York time /
Sun Nov 24, 10-11:30am Sydney time
Switzerland
DECEMBER 5 & 19, 2024
Mahamudra: How to Discover Our True Nature
7-9pm Switzerland time
In cooperation with Yeshin Norbu Meditation Center
Details to follow
DECEMBER 19, 2024
Mahamudra: How to Discover Our True Nature
7-9pm Switzerland time
In cooperation with Yeshin Norbu Meditation Center
Details to follow
DECEMBER 30, 2024
Year-End Purification with Vajrasattva
7:30-9pm Switzerland time
In cooperation with Yeshin Norbu Meditation Center
Details to follow
Q & A with Robina
13 May, 2024
Why am I attached to certain people, and how to become more fulfilled without relying on others?
QUESTION
Dear Ven. Robina:
Last month I received the opportunity to experience directly the deep suffering of change of one of my biggest attachments, which of course is a man.
As you say in your teachings, the suffering is literally unbearable.
But thanks to your patient and profound teachings I could identify it immediately as this suffering of change and investigate and analyze it directly as it occurred.
Also, I realized that I’m mainly attached to the feeling of joy, peace, and harmony that this person triggers inside me.
On the next deeper level I could not explain why he triggers these wonderful feelings. Do you know what the root causes for feelings are? Why does one person trigger such marvelous feelings? And another person who may be even more “beautiful” or “special” does not trigger these feelings.
I realize too that underneath the attachment is the lack of self-worth, and that I yearn for his approval.
So how do we learn to become more fulfilled without relying on others? How do we learn to rejoice in our own good qualities? It seems such a necessary practice and it seems that we never do it.
And how to learn from these experiences?
Love and many thanks for your guidance,
G
ANSWER
Dear G,
Well, your analysis of this attachment is most interesting. You are correct.
The intensity of our craving for someone or something equals our own lack of wholeness; attachment is the symptom of a less than whole person. Join the universe!
All these delusions are fabrications, exaggerations – that’s the nature of the neuroses – and they’re extremely painful. They’re the voices of ego.
The immediate cause of why someone appears delicious to us is, indeed, due to the presence of attachment in our own mind, but why some people trigger pleasure in us and others don’t — that’s due to past karma. Clearly, you have some intense history with this person that has manifested as closeness and goodness and much pleasure, which now seems to have ended.
And we all know that things don’t last, some quicker than others. And losing the object of attachment is naturally very very painful.
It’s only really when we’ve realized emptiness, realized our own true nature, that attachment goes. And when attachment is gone, so has anger, jealousy, pride, and the rest.
Yes, you’re so right: a major practice that we overlook completely is rejoicing in our goodness, our virtues, our intelligence, etc. etc. But we need to actively think those thoughts; they don’t arise naturally — certainly, the delusions seem to arise all the time in our mind.
Suffering in its nature is the fruit of past negative actions, but if we’re wise we can learn from it hugely, which you seem to be doing. Which is marvelous.
In terms of our growth as human beings, it’s such a great opportunity to grow quickly, if we have the courage to face it, embrace it.
When we get in touch with our true nature, yes, we discover that it is naturally blissful, joyful, positive. This is encouraging!
Love to you, G, and much rejoicing in your practice!
Robina
Robina’s Blog
16 May, 2024
Low self-esteem is the flip side of pride
Arrogance is a really interesting state of mind. We never like to admit to being arrogant. Anger: we're even prepared to admit to that. But arrogant? We don't like to think we're arrogant; it doesn't make sense to us.
But in our culture, we love to admit to low self-esteem. And what's utterly fascinating about this is that low self-esteem is like the flip side of arrogance, pride. If you didn't have arrogance, you could not possibly have low self-esteem. This is quite shocking, so let's look at this.
The key function of all the delusions, all the unhappy states of mind – actually there are two: one is they're very disturbing, but the main one is they're delusional, meaning they're misconceptions deep in our bones that exaggerate certain aspects of the object. With arrogance, the object is obviously self: arrogance over-inflates, exaggerates our own importance.
And what is low self-esteem? It’s the opposite: it exaggerates our own lack of importance. If you constantly feel you are nothing, if you constantly feel you are hopeless – “I'm nobody, I'm nothing, I can't do it, I'm so negative” – that's the flip side of pride.
The fact is, if you didn't have arrogance, if you didn't have pride, you couldn't possibly have low self-esteem. It's like deflated pride, you know? We know that as soon as someone insults us, we’re so injured; there's so much pain, and then it turns into low self-esteem.
Now, we can see arrogance in other people very easily: “Oh my God, he's so arrogant. That woman is incredible; she’s so arrogant. Look at them.” We see it in other people, but it's really hard to see it in ourselves; we would never like to think we're arrogant.
A big problem is we mix the delusions and the virtuous states of mind. We confuse self-confidence with arrogance, and we confuse humility with low self-esteem – but self-confidence and humility are both virtues. So a humble person would be self-confident and an arrogant one would fall into low self-esteem.
Humility is a spacious state of mind: it’s relaxed, content. It’s a virtue; it's more reasonable, it's more in sync with dependent arising, and it's comfortable. When you’re humble, you’re realistic about who you are and you’re content with it, you are self-confident. Arrogance is a nonvirtue, a delusion. It’s over-inflated, it's ego-based, it's uncomfortable, and it's distorted.
Look at a person who's arrogant: they're very fragile. I always think of the example of two people in the same room: let's say they're both good at the same thing, and one has got arrogance and one has got humility. The humble person is delighted to meet someone else who's even better than they are. But the arrogant person is really distressed, really nervous, can't bear the thought of meeting a person who might be better than them because what happens is they take it as a personal insult, and they get upset, and then they feel, “Oh, I'm nobody.” They flip it over, and they become, “I am nobody. I am nothing.”
We've all got arrogance, and, in the West especially I think it’s one of our main delusions. That's why we all have so much low self-esteem. When an arrogant person sees people better than they are, they’re thinking, “How dare all these people out there be better than me? How dare everybody be more happy and more wise and more this and more rich and everything else?”
We can'tbear to see this quality in ourselves. But it’s why we get hurt and injured and offended so easily. Look how fragile we are!
And this arrogance comes hand in hand with anger. If you've got anger, you can't not have arrogance, and if you've got arrogance, you can't not have anger. They're like two cousins, like brothers, like sisters. I remember Atisha, this eleventh-century yogi, saying – I forget which way he put it, but both would work – “The best patience is humility.” But “The best humility is patience” is perfect too, isn’t it?
This is not to criticize us. Seeing these delusions is really quite difficult because we’re so close to them, they’re so instinctive, and even hearing about them sounds like criticism, but if we can see our faults, we can see our suffering, and then we can find the solution.
We should be delighted to see our delusions and then know that they're impermanent, they’re not set in stone, they don't define me, and I can change. That's the humility that has to come, you know? So we need this humility – and patience – I tell you. It’s being kind to ourselves.
Bodhichitta Trust projects
Lawudo improvements projects
Helping to Improve the Living Conditions & Infrastructure at Lawudo Retreat Centre, Solu Khumbu, Nepal
Lawudo Trek
A Himalayan adventure & retreat with Ven. Robina that raises funds for Lawudo Gompa, Lama Zopa Rinpoche's retreat center in the Solu Khumba region of Nepal.
Devotion CD
A modern rendition of traditional Tibetan Buddhist prayers, arranged and performed by Ven. Robina and sound artist Yantra de Vilder.
Chasing Buddha Film
The award-winning documentary about Ven. Robina by her nephew, Amiel Courtin-Wilson, the internationally acclaimed Australian filmmaker.
Tsa-Tsa Project
In 2004 Lama Zopa Rinpoche advised Ven. Robina to make 700,000 tsa-tsas: 350,000 of Buddha Mitrugpa, and 350,000 of Lama Tsong Khapa.
Alison harr memorial fund
Alison Harr was a student of Ven. Robina’s who died tragically on June 1, 2013 in San Francisco, due to complications from a car accident.
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